Introduction
Neurodivergent people experience the world in beautifully unique ways—but they often face misunderstanding, invalidation, and a lack of proper support. Whether someone is autistic, has ADHD, or experiences sensory differences, truly supporting neurodivergent individuals starts with education, empathy, and action.
As late-diagnosed neurodivergent people, we know firsthand how isolating it can feel to be unsupported or misunderstood. This post is meant to guide allies, loved ones, and professionals in becoming better advocates.
Understanding Neurodivergence
Neurodivergence includes a wide range of cognitive variations such as autism, ADHD, dyslexia, dyspraxia, Tourette’s, and more. These aren’t deficits—they’re simply different ways of processing information, feeling emotions, and navigating life.
Ways to Support Neurodivergent Individuals
1. Learn and Unlearn
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- Challenge harmful stereotypes (e.g., “people with ADHD are just lazy,” or “autistic people don’t have empathy”).
- Read and listen to neurodivergent voices—books, podcasts, blogs, and social media.
2. Respect Different Needs and Boundaries
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- Don’t force eye contact or touch.
- Accept that someone might need to stim, take breaks, or communicate differently.
- Honor sensory needs, like avoiding strong smells, loud environments, or scratchy clothing.
3. Be Flexible with Communication
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- Allow text-based or asynchronous communication.
- Give time to process and respond—especially in emotionally charged situations.
- Don’t interpret flat tone or directness as rudeness.
4. Offer Support Without Forcing “Fixes”
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- Support executive functioning (e.g., reminders, breaking tasks into steps) if requested.
- Don’t push “normalizing” behaviors. Help them live authentically.
5. Advocate in the World
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- Push for accessible workplaces, schools, and social spaces.
- Speak up when you witness ableism, bullying, or discrimination.
Our Experience
Ariel and I both know what it’s like to mask, burn out, and feel like we’re “too much” or “not enough.” The turning point came when we gave ourselves permission to just be—and when we were met with understanding instead of judgment. We now build systems and relationships that actually support who we are, not who the world expected us to be.
A Final Note
You don’t need to be perfect to support neurodivergent people—you just need to be open, respectful, and willing to learn. Progress over perfection.
How Do You Support the Neurodivergent People in Your Life?
Whether you’re neurodivergent yourself or an ally, we’d love to hear how you offer (or wish you received) support. Share in the comments below!